If your self-worth depends on success, you may be in for a fall. To feel good about yourself, think less about you and more about others.
… high self-esteem may still elude us because self-esteem that is contingent on success is fragile.
Compassion toward others and yourself, along with a less self-centered perspective on your situation, can motivate you to achieve your goals while helping you weather bad news, learn from your mistakes and fortify your friendships.
Crocker, Jennifer, and Jessica Carnevale. “LETTING GO OF SELF-ESTEEM.” Scientific American Mind