I adore how Fr. Freeman began this sentence. My own idea is to forgive everyone for everything and yet, I know that I am incapable of accomplishing anything close to that goal. More to the point, though, is the question of what my forgiveness is to accomplish.
“Those who forgive them recognize and affirm their guilt. Yet at the same time, they lift its burden from the shoulders of the offenders.” ~ Miroslav Volf
Dr. Volf, you have drawn out something which too many of us give no attention. Our forgiveness, whether accepted or not, burns with that accusation of guilt. This is part of the Early Church Fathers’ speaking of our need to seek forgiveness from God and others before taking the step of confronting anyone with an offering of forgiveness for their wrong of us.